No one could believe she was gone; they had just seen her. She had been doing so well. Why did this happen, they wondered? Why is the world going on when they were in such pain?
Losing someone to a sudden death is hard. It's hard on the family and it's hard on the friends. If you have lost a friend or family member, my heart goes out to you. Grieving the death of someone close is painful. Many days may pass before the heavy sadness starts to dim and you find the strength to go on as life does. As you go through this painful time, please accept the hands reaching out to you with support. There are many people who care about you and want to help you endure your grief.
- Find ways to vent your feelings: crying, exercise, making a memory book, yoga, prayer or meditation.
- Write to the one who died. Fold it up and keep it, share it, or burn it. Just get your feelings out.
- Attend the funeral or memorial, even it's hard. It's a way to say goodbye.
- Talk about the special qualities of the one you lost, and don't avoid saying their name. It hurts so much more when no one talks about them.
- Let others help you. Grief is not something to get through on your own. Talk to the people who care about you. Talk to your friends. Join a support group.
- Get plenty of water and rest. Grief makes a person tired.
- Remember that grief is normal and natural. Allow the feelings to come. You may even feel angry. It's okay. Find a constructive way to release your anger. Punching bag? Tennis? Screaming?
- Laugh and have fun. It's okay to enjoy moments, even if your friend is gone.
- Plan to be with friends or family on special anniversary dates, so you will be prepared to be comforted if needed.