The Next Time Someone Lets Me Down

Recently, I had some friends let me down. They didn't call, return my voicemails,  or answer their Facebook messages.

So of course I thought they didn't want to talk to me.

It made me upset. I wondered why I even made an effort, since they obviously didn't want to spend time talking with me.  I had a major pity party! Then a few weeks later...surprise!  I heard from them and found out they each had a good reason for not contacting me. That's when I learned that no matter what the circumstances:

I should never, and I mean never, make assumptions!

If I try to guess what people are thinking, especially when I'm feeling down, I almost always get it wrong.  It is impossible to know the reason why people do what they do until you ask them.  So the next time someone lets me down, I'm going to do something that's hard, but totally worth it.  I'm going to:

Give them the benefit of the doubt.

I'll tell myself they probably have a good reason for doing what they did and I'll choose to believe the best about them. Then I'll do whatever  I can to avoid having negative emotions force me into a pity party.  Waste of time to have a pity party for nothing.  Total waste.