Imagine you were home sick for a week and when you went back to school, your best friend didn't want to speak to you or hang out anymore. Boom! Just like that you've found yourself in the middle of friend drama, sitting alone at lunch and wondering what could have happened .
Does this sound familiar? I was describing something that happened to a friend of mine recently, but it's a tale as old as time. Most of us have stories about friend drama. Drama seems to go with hormones, which is something all of us have. Knowing this fact doesn't help the pain you feel in those situations, though, does it? I agree. These situations are always awkward and painful.
I wish I could tell you there was one magic strategy for resolving the situation with your friend, but there isn't. What works in one case may not work in another. I will tell you this, however. There is one thing that can make things much worse: your words.
What you say right now matters more than you think. Hurtful words can live forever in people's minds. Years later you are going to be able to recall all of the angry and terrible words spoken to you. This is true for your friend, also. Sometimes the memories of those words will bring up just as much pain as they did when they were first spoken.
If you truly want to be friends with this person and get things back to where they were, keep your words kind. Don't say things you will regret later on or will cause them pain long after you have spoken them. Even if they speak or text nasty things, don't return any of your own. Yes, it's hard and it seems unfair, but it's the best way to show your friend that you are one.
Resolving issues can take time. While you are waiting, be kind to yourself, as well. Speak positive things over yourself, and enjoy the other friends and family members who are encouraging you. Do things you love. You'll get through this tough period. You will. And if you both decide in the end that this friendship isn't worth saving, you can walk away guilt-free, knowing you did everything in your power to be there for them.
Does this sound familiar? I was describing something that happened to a friend of mine recently, but it's a tale as old as time. Most of us have stories about friend drama. Drama seems to go with hormones, which is something all of us have. Knowing this fact doesn't help the pain you feel in those situations, though, does it? I agree. These situations are always awkward and painful.
I wish I could tell you there was one magic strategy for resolving the situation with your friend, but there isn't. What works in one case may not work in another. I will tell you this, however. There is one thing that can make things much worse: your words.
What you say right now matters more than you think. Hurtful words can live forever in people's minds. Years later you are going to be able to recall all of the angry and terrible words spoken to you. This is true for your friend, also. Sometimes the memories of those words will bring up just as much pain as they did when they were first spoken.
If you truly want to be friends with this person and get things back to where they were, keep your words kind. Don't say things you will regret later on or will cause them pain long after you have spoken them. Even if they speak or text nasty things, don't return any of your own. Yes, it's hard and it seems unfair, but it's the best way to show your friend that you are one.
Resolving issues can take time. While you are waiting, be kind to yourself, as well. Speak positive things over yourself, and enjoy the other friends and family members who are encouraging you. Do things you love. You'll get through this tough period. You will. And if you both decide in the end that this friendship isn't worth saving, you can walk away guilt-free, knowing you did everything in your power to be there for them.
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