This powerful video was shared to my Facebook page. Its images triggered some painful emotions, but the message is clear. People who have been through the battle of depression and survived know that hope is waiting on the other side. Whether you find it in faith or somewhere else, hope is waiting for you. Please don't kill yourself!
Do you ever feel like pain is your enemy? You wake up in the morning and try your best, but somehow pain always finds a way to slice through your happiness. And you wonder...will you ever be able to escape it?
If you feel this way, I'm sorry for the hurt you are experiencing. I understand where you're coming from; I really do. I've experienced both physical and mental pain that have left me begging for mercy.
I'd love to take all of that pain away from you, but I know, deep down, it would be one of the worst things I could do.
You may be surprised by that statement, but it's true. You see, pain is not our enemy. It is simply a warning to us that something is amiss— something's not right.
Without pain, we wouldn't know anything was wrong; and that, my friend, could be detrimental. After all, some of the most dangerous types of diseases are those where we feel no pain until it's too late for healing.
I'm not saying pain is good, but what I am saying is that pain often triggers us to search for the help we need. It causes us to find new solutions... make supportive connections...repair important relationships. It causes us to fight with the determination of a warrior, knowing healing is right around the corner.
Pain doesn't have to be a stumbling block. It can be a stepping stone—a way out of your faltering strength and into a transformative wholeness. Don't stop fighting. Reach out. Connect. Search for healing. It won't be long until you find it.
We are so thankful for the agencies who join hands with us in our journey to help you.
Topcounselingschools.org shared the following graphic, which you may find insightful. As you go about your week, please take care of yourself.
Have you ever said that? Someone makes a comment to you because they're concerned about your eating habits, and you push them away by saying, "I'm fine." You know they're probably correct, but you don't want to hear it. You want to keep doing whatever you're doing, because it's giving you something you feel you need.
Like a smaller number on the scale.
A smaller jean size.
Comments from your friends about how "tiny" you look.
It's easy to convince yourself you're fine, because of the pretty package on the outside. But inside, you know something's not right.
You have dizzy spells and headaches.
Your stomach hurts.
Your body wasn't made to run on empty. It needs fuel to run smoothly, and when it doesn't get enough fuel, severe problems arise.
Plus, it's stressful having to worry about calorie counting and calorie burning! You wish you didn't have to worry about such things, so you could devote yourself to relaxing and having fun in the moment like others do.
So the pain and pressure began to build, and you ran. You ran to the one pain you could control...cutting.
It helped provide a little relief from your terrible feelings. It helped to ease the stress for a little while.
Now you feel like you can't stop and it's embarrassing, even scary.
As if you needed any more problems to think about!
People don't usually intend to keep cutting once they start, but it happens. The brain gets tricked into believing the false sense of relief, so the next time it feels pain, the brain craves this same deliverance. Cutting suddenly becomes an addiction that seems impossible to stop. And the worst thing is: the relief it provides doesn't last. The problems that triggered the cutting remain — you can't outrun them. Plus, when you self-injure, you are at risk for infections, scarring, and shock . You can die from an extreme injury or bad cuts that don't get treated right away.
So how do you stop?
The first thing you do is become aware of which situations trigger your urge to cut.
Is it triggered after a disagreement with a friend or a family member?
...when a large project is due at school?
...after you've lost a game?
...when there's pressure at work?
After you know your triggers, make a plan for what to do instead of cutting when you feel the urge.
Put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it.
Rub an ice cube on your skin in place of cutting
Draw a mark on your skin with red pen in the place you usually cut.
Squeeze a stress ball.
Rip something up.
Scribble on paper with red ink
Drip red paint over paper
Illustrate your pain
Use poetry to express what you're feeling
Listen to music that talks about how you feel
Ask a friend for help
You may not be able to control the things in life that cause you pain, but there is nothing wrong in asking for help. The right person can enable you to find your inner strength.
So you can cope with your problems in a healthy way,
and stop cutting,
and begin to solve those problems instead of trying to outrun them.
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